I Need Some Effective Tips on How to Save My Marriage - 5 Great Tips to Help Save Your Marriage

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If you are at the stage in your relationship that you are wondering whether you will still be together in a few years then you also may be asking yourself how to save my marriage. When you made those vows to each other that wonderful day you joined together for better or worse. When the "worse" happens you can get through it, but only if you work on it together. Problems happen but you cannot resolve them on your own.

Here are 5 great tips to help save your marriage and bring you closer together in a lasting relationship:

Marriages made in Heaven? - Not likely! Even though no marriage is perfect you can have a loving intimate relationship with your spouse when you learn to accept each other and love each other unconditionally. No one person is perfect and your marriage will not be either but you can make the most of it. Accept that your marriage road will up and down.Marriages do not work by themselves - Your marriage will not be a great one by itself. It takes effort and commitment on both your parts to make your relationship strong. The more effort you put into it the more likely you are to build a loving and intimate relationship based on trust and respect. Being respectful and courteous with each other is extremely important and without these your relationship can founder.Marriages require good communication and listening skills - Making quality time to talk with each other about issues and actively listening objectively is vital to working through everyday problems. Share your feelings and avoid blaming, but instead focus on identifying the issue or issues and then find solutions together. Be open and honest with each other and find a common ground where the solution works for both of you. You also need to spend time together sharing thoughts, feelings, dreams and desires with each other, which will help take your marriage to a deeper level of intimacy.Marriages grow strong on forgiving and forgetting - Whenever you have made a mistake apologize and put it right, and when you have been hurt, forgive your lover and forget the offence. Holding onto grudges or becoming resentful over past hurts or misunderstandings will only serve to undermine your marriage. Look at the good things in your relationship and build on that.Marriages need kindness and giving - When you live with another person it is easy to begin to take them for granted or not treat them with the same kindness and generosity of spirit as people you see less often. The exact opposite is true. When you live closely with someone you profess to love dearly, you especially need to show them kindness and be giving toward each other. Making your spouse feel loved and special to you, will help the two of you become closer and strengthen your bond together. If you are unsure how you can show your mate that you care about them and want to do something for them, ask them what you can do for them. The simplest things can mean the most, and it is not generally the big things that will make or break a relationship, but the little things.

If, after you have applied the above and you still ask yourself how to save my marriage, then perhaps seeing a counselor will help, but only if you both agree to go. If only one of you works on your relationship then things are that much harder, your chance of success is reduced and you run the risk of burning yourself out.

However, if the two of you really want to make your marriage work, then a counselor can certainly help you both achieve your goal when a third person's unbiased professional guidance is needed. Sometimes, having another point of view is all it takes to be able to see your situation from a different perspective and so find the right solution.

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Article Submitted On: October 15, 2010

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