Marriage is not always what people expect. Sometimes it is incredible, while other times your expectations are greatly unfulfilled. But hey, thus it is with life. We do not always get things exactly the way we want them. Fortunately, that is not an insurmountable problem. You can work to change and improve your life and your marriage. If your marriage is not what you expected then you are not the only one. Love makes it easy to imagine what your future will be without allowing realistic foresight for the normal and even reasonable challenges that lay ahead. Now that you are slightly more seasoned, no I did not say old, you can work towards making the life that you want and reinvigorating your marriage with joy and love.
Here are three common problems that you can fix to help save your marriage:
1. Marriage is not what I expected - We do not spend enough quality time together
The emphasis here is on the word quality. Most likely you spend plenty of time around or in the company of your spouse; however, you need to think about the quality of that time. Is your spouse being fulfilled by this time? Are you? In order to solve this problem you need to start breaking some of the habits you have formed in your marriage. We are very good at forming habitual behaviour towards and with the people we see every day. Oftentimes, these habits are detrimental to a happy marriage. Increasing the quality of the time you spend with your spouse is a great step in the right direction.
2. Marriage is not what I expected - We fight a lot
This is an example of one of the poor habits that we often form in relationships and in marriage. If you are serious about saving your marriage you have to start working actively against creating conflicts with your spouse. I cannot emphasize this enough. These conflicts often happen for other reasons, like the fact that you are stressed from work perhaps; this usually means that fights often occur over fairly minor things. When you are fighting over something that seems like a big problem someone has to give way. You are there for each other, not there to be against each other. Remember that although marriage is not what you expected you have a chance to support and 'be there for' your spouse.
3. Marriage is not what I expected -We don't have fun together anymore
Do you remember what it felt like when you held your partner's hand for the first time? Or the first time you kissed? In those days, you knew how to have fun with each other. Do not forget that. You can have fun like that again. Things like inside jokes, playfulness, and creative nights together can go a long way towards saving your marriage and infusing it with greater joy.
If your marriage is not what you expected then you are not alone. There are many challenges that lead MANY people to the same point. Remember, however, that this situation is within your power to change.
Of those people with similar problems thousands have taken their situation into their own hands and helped save their marriage from divorce. If you have the will and, to you, your marriage is worth saving, then you can do it! There are many ways that cost a lot of money and are not more than 10 - 20% effective, like marriage counseling.
Here is a resource that has been featured in Psychology Today and was designed to help people who have thought: marriage is not what I expected. There are answers and there is help that can work for you if you want it. You can save your marriage.
Now is the time to start saving your marriage: http://howtosaveyourmarriagequickly.info/.
I earnestly hope that over the following weeks you will begin to experience more joy and fulfillment in your marriage. I wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Ben
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