As the statistics show that the majority of divorced people start a new family. The second marriage problems differ much difficulties facing on their very first honeymoon honeymooners.
Let's look at the most common case in our lives: a woman to marry for the second time, but it already has a child (perhaps even more than one) of the first mariage.Avant making a decision to live together, you should take some factors into consideration.
Stepchildren are an obstacle? As a general rule, adult relationship develops as follows: the mother takes the child for grandparents or a babysitter, while she enjoys her time with her beloved one. Sometimes they take a joint journey of the Park, but these trips are a small percentage of the total time spent together. After the three of them found a common territory, the order of things may change dramatically.You must be particularly careful if mankind does not have his own children and therefore no experience with human remove does not always clearly includes for example sex is now go only happen after the kid is sleeping (and MOM can spend lot of time and nerves in it), and the rest of the time the baby is free trip around the House and stick his nose curious throughout what do adults. Now you will be able stay alone with your thoughts in the bathroom, and even in this case there's no guarantee new female offspring will not to try to break y.
A man has many habits change, and a woman should not deceive him about it. It is unlikely that a man will leave his laptop wherever he wants, valuable thing can be obtained on or even broken, and if a child is older that he or it may simply be curious to know what is inside. And even if nothing gets broken, it will not be that easy to get accustomed to thinking that there are some things in the House now child that should never be affected. After MOM things all belong to a slightly different category: of course, there are things moms who should preferably not be played with, but if MOM always forgive, or it will be just put where he can be reached. It is a totally different matter when it comes to a strange uncle.It cannot comprendre.Et no matter how much he loves his wife there life degrees behind his back, it will be extremely difficult for him to adapt to the constant intervention in his private area. It will have to get accustomed to hide everything what it is not affected and if he has forgotten to do so, he cannot get mad at doodles everywhere in his daily planner or the fact that its new stylish leather gloves are part of a teddy bear keychain. A man should think twice before shaking his wife in front of the child - response may be different, ranging from braillards to try to embrace.
You should not hide these details a step potential papa.Toutefois you also not able to explain with words. Women use generally strategy where the first new uncle is just a friend then suddenly that there is a potential father and almost a day to the next, it is already suffering from the mother and child. This strategy is generally used to spare the feelings of the child, but realistic it not spared anyone's feelings. For all the persons involved such an abrupt transition leads probably nothing but stress.
It is possible to avoid the stress? The answer is Yes... If you're a "test". This can be all three of take you a vacation, regular spending a weekend with residence in the territory, a trip together, and so forth. Women often remain far from this option because they do not know how to explain the child why MOM is sleep now in the same bed with a strange uncle.But here, you'll need to choose the lesser of two evils, it will be much worse if after an abrupt transition potential father is cave under the pressure of unexpected new lifestyle and fled, and the child received attached to him.
What is the biological father? future new family also depends on how biological father treats her child, and that extend, it is involved in decisions concerning her offspring. It is more difficult when the father is very active in the life of a child. It is very rare that the two men, the former husband and new husband, are able to come to an agreement and get along.Therefore, women should play a role of mediator.
She needs help new husband conditioned by the fact that the biological father contributes to her child, whether financial or spend time with the child list.it investment the same time, it must leave the new husband knows has also the right to make decisions about the new family as a whole, including decisions about the child.
If you do not do this, then the new head of the family will inevitably be irritated that the majority of families for children and financial policy decisions that comes with it is decided by someone else.And even if in the first blow of eye, it seems that humans do not cares sooner or later it will begin to reflect on his role in the family.Who is?A person in charge of all members of his family, or simply a legalized mother lover?
When there is no reason a conflict, and the biological father appears very rarely, the woman should be allowed her husband to know that a child depends on its decisions as much as it is, and that a family is an integer.Divide the relationship in my relationship with the child and my relationship with her husband is desperate and without future.
What relationship with loved ones?The man has now a new mother - and father-in-law and perhaps even brothers - and stepsisters, and nieces and nephews.How they will treat? here a woman must be on his guard, because even if it did not itself comparisons such as "my ex-husband used to be this way", there's no guarantee that their parents won't il.Et we talk about high voix.Les men are very sensitive to these comparisons.
At the beginning of the relationship of all the problems should be solved by only three vous.Et only when everything is settled in a calm routine and stable, the woman can give his access to the new famille.Personne family said that they are bad and untactful, they are simply a reminder on the passé.Et early, there is no need for these callbacks.
When it's second marriage, haste leads to no bonne.Parfois is better and more honest to keep love and friends and sometimes you need time and patience - sagesse.Stocker in such a situation, that is something that you will likely.
No comments:
Post a Comment