2 Steps to Dealing With Problems in Your Marriage

All couples should have the common goal of making their marriage the best it can be. Each party of the marriage is responsible for putting in their own time and work to making the marriage more successful on a daily basis. Learning to deal with your problems immediately as they arise is a key step in a successful marriage. Even if you have the most wonderful marriage in the world, there is probably still room for improvement and growth.
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Have you ever met a married couple that had been married for 40, 50, and even 60 years? Many of these happily married couples are some of the happiest people you will ever meet. This is a result of spending a lifetime building a relationship and making it stronger day by day. Many of these marriages have had to reignite and sparked a flame over and over to keep their marriage alive and success. You must make a commitment to do this on a daily basis if you want the same result.
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No matter what the problem in the marriage is, you must be able to define it with pure clarity. Your spouse may be messy and leave dirty clothes and old food lying around the house. He may not show his wife much affection and watch too much TV. His wife may have gotten caught up in too much neighborly gossip and is arguing with neighbors about nonsense. One may be criticizing the other's family members and do not want them around. Whatever the problem may be, no matter how serious it is, it must be clearly defined in order to be able to solve the problem. Your first step is to define it with clarity.
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Both the husband and wife need to confront the problem head on before another major problem from the small problem arises. Choosing the right time to confront the problem is a key step in solving it peacefully. Whatever the two of you enjoy doing together as a couple, set aside one evening to do it. It may be going to your favorite restaurant or an evening walk by the river. After you have completed your favorite evening together as a couple, this is the time you should sit down and put your heads together to solve the problem at hand. Each of you should be able to convey your issues peacefully and nicely. It may help to hold hands while exchanging words. This may sound a bit counterintuitive, but it does work. Make sure you communicate effectively and in detail what your issue is and what your solution you would like to happen would be.

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Article Submitted On: October 11, 2010

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Dealing with Unemployment

What happens if you get married and your spouse loses his or her job shortly afterward? Unemployment can happen to anyone at any time. If it happens to your spouse, especially early in the marriage, it can be devastating.

Getting laid off or fired, besides being a downer, can lower one’s self-esteem. The now unemployed person feels as though he let down is employer, family, and most of all him or herself. Often, he or she feels like a failure and worries about the future. But you can help your unemployed husband or wife. Here’s how to support your unemployed husband or wife:

When your spouse first loses his or her job, do something special. Make his or her favorite meal, go to a ball game, or just spend extra time together. Besides providing a distraction, these kinds of gestures will show your spouse that he or she is more than a job and that you love him or her no matter what.

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