In this study of Christian Sex, we will study re-learning how to be in love and fall in love with the person of your dreams by improving communication. In foreplay, the role of communication is to further stimulate your spouse to a point of high arousal.
The more you are exposed to something, the more you show favoritism towards it and develop different biases towards it; but as that happens - you begin to get familiar with it to a point that it no longer holds its full value. It is true for many things in life, and it's especially important for anyone in a Christian marriage who wants to have better Christian sex.
And you therefore show less excitement or interest in sexual intimacy in your Christian marriage, as you normally would. That's why it's so critical to keep good communication in your marriage if you plan to enjoy powerful Christian sex.
It would be great if you could devote all your time to your lover and explore the world with her and whisk off into the sunlight at the drop of a hat. But...that's unlikely. It's good to give genuine compliments, because your compliment satisfies one of our basic human needs. But there are also a few of things you want to avoid while setting the mood with foreplay:
The typical dangling conversation starters
? How was your day?
? What's For Dinner?
? How Do You Feel?
While you are setting the mood for Christian Sex and intimacy, the conversation has to lead to some type of purpose. You are aiming to create a new mood and a new zone of happiness. If you are trying to set the mood then the last thing you want to do is recreate the day - whether it was good or bad. Instead, your conversation will be more effective if it revolves around more intense and purposeful questions like:
? What really turns you on?
? How does it make you feel when I touch you?
? What is your fantasy?
What people want is that exciting kind of nervous feeling in the pit of their stomach when they look into their lover's eyes. What you want is to recreate that feeling of "the first time."
And one way to do that is by having powerful, meaningful ways of engaging in conversation that refreshes the entire atmosphere. Talking about your average day, probably won't be as exciting as talking about something that's new for both of you. If you think this won't have an affect on the way you have sex in your Christian Marriage, think again.
Christian Sex is affected by the moods you create with each other. And since you have to deal with life and the exposures to all it has to offer - it's important to keep an engaged, upward-inflection tone in your marriage if you want to increase the opportunities to enjoy Christian Sex and lovemaking. Otherwise your attraction to your lover will have it's up and downs, and eventually get stuck in a rut.
There are days where wives will feel that spending time with husband is extremely important, but on other days - he just has to wait until tomorrow. Likewise, there are days where Husbands will feel the wife is waiting on the bed with the Victoria Secret lingerie on... but the husband can't mentally focus on her long enough to meet her needs because the quarter reports are due next week.
Spark up your conversation and begin enjoying and relaxing in a full night of romance, pleasure, and sexual satisfaction. Just remember that the law of familiarity bites us all at some point, on some level and ultimate affects a significant part of our existence... but only if you allow it. Don't let it get in the way of enjoying powerful sex in your Christian Marriage.